I got a kick out of listening to the Sunflower on the phone yesterday.
She and my mom were talking about my nephew. He's been giving his mom, my sister, a lot of grief lately. I blogged about this a couple of weeks ago. My nephew was recently arrested and in jail at the local juvenile detention center where they live. He went home on April 2nd, with an ankle bracelet for up to 3 weeks of house arrest. They took him off, for good behavior, but he remains on probation now, thru at least October.
Apparently, he seems to think that because the bracelet is off his ankle now, that he should be allowed to have the same kinds of freedoms and privileges he had before the arrest. And of course, my sister, isn't in agreement. So, to put it mildly, my nephew is kind of being a butt head.
So my mom, was trying to enlist the Sunflower in talking to my nephew, because my mom seems to think that if she did, peer to peer and offered him some sort of sympathy that perhaps he'd just sort of suck it up and deal with what he was going through at the moment, because apparently, he's making the home life for my sister and her family pretty unbearable.
What I heard from the Sunflower could have come right out of my mouth. She told my mom that she would talk to my nephew, but she wasn't going to tell him that she felt bad for him, or that she understood how he was feeling, because "if I had been arrested and just got off house arrest, my mom wouldn't let me have any freedoms." She then went on to say that, " trust would have to be earned back after that kind of behavior." She also told my mom that my nephew, "should get his head out of his butt and remember he just got arrested."
As a parent, it's always nice to know that your kids are listening when you talk.
She offered some really good insight to my mom on what would help to earn trust back for my nephew and even admitted that if she behaved better sometimes, that perhaps her punishments would be eased up or less harsh, because she was even more trustworthy in our eyes.
I can't believe she actually got it...